The best coaching/therapy is the one that teaches you to do these explorations by yourself. Problem is that it's bad for business to teach people to manage issues themselves vs subscribing them to therapy.
Wrt personal life/feelings, it has helped me talk to therapists and friends who've had similar issues and hear what they did to develop my own intuition.
It's tough! The computer throws errors but feelings are less deterministic and reflective (they change our ability to look into them).