I assume you're posing a rhetorical question (implying that no languages are better or worse in this regard) rather than saying you actually want a language that's intentionally unfriendly to queer people. In that case:
The relevant part in the article is quoting someone saying that because the Rust community adopted a code of conduct prohibiting harassment and took the attitude that no question is stupid it attracted more queer and trans coders and n00bs. Are you saying that you don't think it's possible that this type of code of conduct can make a forum more friendly? It doesn't seem that unreasonable (or some sort of outrage of wokeness run amock) to think that queer/trans coders are going to prefer a language where they know the community isn't going to harass them.