People should be taught to be nice to others, of course. The point is that LLMs are not “others”, they are inanimate tools. If I called a cashier a worthless piece of shit, that would be incredibly rude. If I said the same thing to Siri, it wouldn’t be, because it is not possible to be rude to software.

If my child were to say that to Siri though, I’d be concerned because, as you said, it could be highlighting something about the way they interact with the world. But I would still want it to respond to the command and leave the problem of my child’s bad manners to me. Unless there’s a major shift in our understanding of sentience, I consider teaching the delineation between humans, who are never unfeeling tools, and technology, which is always an unfeeling tool, equally as important as teaching mindfulness of one’s impact in the world. In fact, I don’t think you can actually understand the latter without understanding the former.