Without the intent to finger point, as I discuss ideas, not people, see this comment [0]:
> there is a difference between white people wanting to stick together and people of color wanting to stick together in a white supremacist society. In this case the white people stick together to maintain their oppression and exclusion, and the people of color stick together to find freedom and respite from their mistreatment.
Here's the problem. That bias is ok in some cases, and not ok in others, and the poster claims to tell us when that is the case. Assuming the society is a society of white supremacy, whites cannot gather, only by virtue of being whites.
The same applies for all categories you care to divide people in, in the oppressor/oppressor axis.
Your "let people associate with who they wish" is denied.