Read up on what happened to Stock, and what she goes through when trying to speak in public nowadays, and you'll see my description is factual.

The benefit of changing the terms by which we express our fixation on race is that the old terms were largely associated with hateful speech, and the hope is that the new term might be less inflammatory. If you actually feel comfortable using someone's race as an adjective when referring to them, regardless of what form that adjective takes. I would suggest that you consider that more thoughtfully.

in the case if removing the word woman from the lexicon, the people who are being appeased have a problem with whether or not they get/have to be identified as women. Not that woman is a hateful word, but that you might exclude someone from the category.

This is different. It is true that arbitrary exclusion from categories is occasionally hateful, but it is not the case that people have been using breast feeding as a slur, and trying to retcon that to be so is obviously degrading to women who have not used it vitriolically, and do not consider it hate speech.

In good faith, can you really not imagine the difference between telling someone not to use the word chinaman to refer to someone who doesnt want to be called a chinaman, and telling them not to refer to thenselves as a woman, because someone else doesn't want you to?