"It's not about the nail"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg
People don't want their problems solving, they want to whine.
It helps to start a conversation like this with "do you want me to listen or to offer help"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg
People don't want their problems solving, they want to whine.
It helps to start a conversation like this with "do you want me to listen or to offer help"
And what makes it more irritating is that the solution giver isn't even going to face most of the pain of implementing the solution. It's condescending to assume that she hasn't noticed the obvious source of the problem. He doesn't offer to remove it or share the risk.
As time goes by, she accepts the nail as a part of her life, just like OP's father has accepted a dysfunctional medical system.