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Interesting that you consciously chose to be more "outgoing". I believe that (ex-)introverts still have less need for others. Do you believe that your needs have changed too, e.g would you be OK if you went back to living like an introvert tomorrow as you did in the past or would you be overly depressed about it?

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The major reason my first relationship (at 28) failed was because of the love/approval addiction I had. At its core that was because of a set of dysfunctional beliefs I had about myself, and had little to do with introversion or extroversion. This is essentially why I'm suspicious of these labels because my experience of these traits time and again comes down to my beliefs, not some inborn characteristic I can't change. Thus the answer to your question becomes: Why would I want to go back to a set of dysfunctional beliefs about myself?

would you be OK if you went back to living like an introvert tomorrow

Being alone and not having a lot of friends is NOT introversion! Seriously, this is like calling narcissistic personality disorder extroversion. Those things are not the same!

That's what i wish to know, is he faking extroversion or not.

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