I take my hat off to you - an impressive amount of research went into this!
MessageMyWay is opt-in and has a robust opt-out mechanism - and is sadly moribund. It sends a maximum of a couple of hundred emails a day.
And we are registered with GMail spam feedback loop and Microsoft's SNDS, both of which tell us when someone marks a message as spam. This happens less than once a week, so this isn't the signal that triggers the rate-limiting.