Maybe most women don’t like the implied(?) subservience you want to define as complementary.
Being happy to serve your wife/husbands needs - and indeed the needs of your children is a necessary foundation for a happy home.
What's the alternative? Endless self-gratification? Why bother getting married if that's what you want?
A healthy relationship does both. You of course support and help each other. But you also have to have the space for yourself. A person that just looks at the other will not be happy in the long run.
The type of relationship your proposal results in would in my experience not last very long. I am in one happy relationship for half of my life now and have seen countless relationships fall apart over the years.
E.g.:
> A wife ought not to make friends of her own but enjoy her husband’s friends in common with him
> a virtuous woman ought to be most visible in her husband’s company and to stay in the house and hide herself when he is away.
> If therefore a man in private life, who is incontinent and dissolute in regard to his pleasures, commits some peccadillo with a paramour or a maidservant, his wedded wife ought not to be indignant or angry, but she should reason that it is respect for her which leads him to share his debauchery, licentiousness, and wantonness with another woman.
For me this paints the picture of a fearful, unfaithful husband who lacks confidence.
However, I think a return to gender roles would do us good. Having two parents be forced into the work place, leaving the kids to be raised by strangers in day care is not really the "liberation" that feminists claim it is.
I am firmly of the opinion that a couple should not have children if they cannot take care of them themselves.
Daycare is a band-aid to a social problem and should never be accepted as the norm or ideal.
In the course of dying out, people will change their attitudes and standards. Crisis situations will multiply. In the midst of crisis, I doubt life will be any easier for women than it is now. But maybe I’m wrong and it will be a feminist utopia. Good luck with that.
This talk of people changing their standards only goes one way, and it’s telling. The not so veiled insinuation that women will comply by choice or will eventually be forced. There’s no suggestion that, in whatever civilization failure is contrived to justify this misogyny, men will have to adjust to recognize and treat women as humans.
No luck with that.