I've gone through this a few times recently and have it in my homelab and at the office. What works good for me using kube-vip to a VIP on the control plane, and then MetalLB to dish out private addresses in the respective networks, or even statically assigned addresses. I have been turning them all up with k3sup which works like a charm.

turn up the first node, install kube-vip, switch config to point to the vip, turn up all my other master nodes, then turn up my workers, install metallb, setup my subnet, install rancher, expose it with a LB, install longhorn. then start deploying things. here is an example of what i use to turn up the first one with k3sup. all of the servers are turned up and configured with ansible doing minimal updates, users, sudo access, etc..

k3sup install \ --ip=192.168.1.11 \ --user=k3s-user \ --sudo \ --tls-san=192.168.1.10 \ --cluster \ --k3s-channel=stable \ --k3s-version=v1.24.12+k3s1 \ --no-extras \ --k3s-extra-args "--flannel-iface=ens160 --node-ip=192.168.1.11" \ --merge \ --local-path $HOME/.kube/config \ --context=k3s-lab