This type of thinking is the biggest assumption in the whole article, and something I often see pronounced as though it were fact by some default. Humans can have a strong degree of control over their emotions, and do not have to react to any events with any particular emotion. The reaction is often associated as 'being caused by' such and such thing, but when a feeling arises within, one can allow the feeling and not become overwhelmed/consumed with the effects of an unchecked emotional reaction. This allowing is the action of acting, rather than reacting. We do not have to behave as we always have, and get the results we have always gotten from our 'usual' states of being. We do not have to place the blame for our internal state on the external world, but benefit greatly by taking the responsibility for our own state.