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There are 2 phases in your life, and a third one if you are really lucky. During the first phase you will care what others think of you (and you will be a puppet); most people were born and will die here. Extroverts live there. During the second phase, you will ask yourself "what is the fucking point", then you won't give a fuck what most people think. Some introverts make it there. I'll skip the third phase.

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Gotta disagree with your statement that extroverts all care about what people think of them. Just because someone is outgoing and energized by interpersonal interactions, it doesn't automatically mean they're a mindless slave to other people's opinions and social conventions. It's just a negative stereotype, and comes across as a bit bitter and "Us vs. Them"

The implied positive stereotype about introverts isn't necessarily true either, that they're all independent thinkers and unshackled from social trivialities.

Some introverts make it there. Some, not most. As for extroverts, I stand by my statement. They just need others too much in order to keep up. With that kind of mind set, it is hard to get near emotional independence.

A lot of introverts do care what others think and tell themselves they don't care in order rationalize their social failures and unwillingness to expose their vulnerabilities. Some might be able to fake it 'til they make it, but all too many just keep faking it and dying on the inside.

I agree entirely. I mostly introverted(maybe 85-15). I used to care what others think, it still do, but way way....... way way less, nearing zero. Extroverts by definition need/want others around them, and it's kind of hard to say "I like to be the center of attention" and "I do not care how others, or most people around me, perceive me" together.

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