As for the "huge chinese" databases, not to sound like a conspiracy, but CockroachDB has outperformed them in my server load testing (stress test with very basic "SELECT FROM users" and "INSERT INTO users" on KC3000 + Ryzen 7950x)- so I'm beginning to seriously question all of the self-published benchmarks from mainland china.
That, and when one considers they have a similarly rough deployment story compared to ScyllaDB, is it maybe worth just going directly to ScyllaDB in the first place?
One other damming thing: I've also observed that all Spanner (Big Table) inspired databases have lower throughput compared to Postgres when under 5-ish servers: Aka you only begin to see throughput benefits after you have a sizeable cluster.
ScyllaDB / Cassandra is a different architecture, though.
Heck even Vitess, pretty rough deploy story as well (they really push k8s on you), but that's why PlanetScale exists, IMO.