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Comment by 29athrowaway | Hacker News Reader

Fair-weather friends are not true friends.

If unemployment can help you get rid of people that saved your contact as "Free food", that's a great thing.

To be clear, my comment was basically about being your own destructive force, less so about dealing with real perceived judgement.

Unemployment can be inherently isolating. If you surround yourself with status-seeking judgemental people, that's probably not a resilient social circle, but you shouldn't project your own negative perception of yourself and try to preemptively avoid rejection

You don't want to isolate yourself, that's is for sure.

You also don't want to build relationships based solely on commiseration and draining others.

But you need to have some form of support from your close circle of friends.

Absolutely. I do wonder though what circles people are traveling in these days where they'd they'd straight up be alienated purely for that purpose. I would think the more likely situation would be too much attention from an overbearing set of family members, depending on wealth class maybe and ethnic background

Haha, this is so true. It literally happened to me once when I threw a large party at my place and one lady set it in her calendar as "gourmet food" and tried to bring her friends as well.

That's funny, I guess it completely depends on context how that might be interpreted. If she had a reputation for being a leech, negative, but otherwise I think it would be kind of funny or a compliment. At least I'm doing the food right

That’s true, but neither are leeches. There’s a limit to everything.

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