(first, I am biased as I have worked with Ruby since 2007 and still enjoying it)
This is not a reply to you, but I decided a long time ago that I will not let this argument about scalability remain with response.
If you have already decided not to try Ruby on Rails or any Ruby framework, say so.
It is ok to have different preferences.
But this thing with Ruby needs to be more scalable is a very weak argument.
Here is why:
In the tech industry, it is not uncommon to come across companies that opt to rewrite their tech stack in a different language, often citing scalability as a reason. While this argument holds some merit, it's worth noting that scalability is a complex issue that affects all web frameworks, not just Ruby on Rails. Therefore, criticizing Ruby on Rails solely based on scalability may not be a strong argument when you take into consideration the idea that there are very big companies build with it.
- Ruby on Rails is scalable for 99.999% of all startups created with it. This 99.999% will die for any other reason but not because of their tech stack. Again the same can be said about any other web framework. Of course the 99.999% is just a made up number based on the fact that there are so few companies failing because of their tech stack scalability.
- Twitter and Github are maybe in the top 0.0001% of web apps when thinking about scale or usage. Hope you (the reader of this comment) will create a startup that will be so successful in terms of scale. But the chances are that with 99.999% confidence, you are not them, and the chances to create a product that will be like them are slim.
- The problems at scale are not only technological but also organizational.
Now open this list https://www.ycombinator.com/topcompanies and this list https://www.ycombinator.com/topcompanies/public and try to check how many of them are using Ruby. There are quite a few in this top. It scales or else there should not be any big company using Ruby there.