Could be. My wife presses so hard, I hear the motor bog down. "JFC, honey, let up a bit", to no avail. She's constantly replacing her heads. I literally can't remember the last time I popped a new one on mine. I could easily believe it's been six months (and, yeah, it's about due).
a dental hygienist told me to hold it with just the thumb and forefinger.
I can't quite manage that, but if you look at how drummers hold their sticks, it's never in a fist. Their arms wouldn't last through one show like that.
So if you at least take your little finger off it, the amount of pressure goes down.
Watch Roy Mayorga.
https://drummagazine.com/roy-mayorga-the-soulfly-interview/
I'm not a drummer, so I shouldn't make blanket statements like that, I guess. I always thought they held the sticks loosely.Look at Ginger Baker & Elvin Jones, from 0:56 on.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bFTvZl8G9Z4
Or Roy Haynes: