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How do you have time for friends besides your spouse after you do jour job, chores, fitness, sleping, education, side projects and random tasks which emerge every now and then? I do have some great friends but only meet them a couple of times a week even though they live very close to me.

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Only a couple of times per week? I found this statement kind of funny. Now that I'm married with kids, and my best friends have kids, im lucky if I see them once every few months! Right now I spend more time with my kids' friends families than I do my personal friends.

Seeing your friends a couple of times a week is more than what I think most people do.

I feel like I have an abnormally large group of close friends and I basically only see them on weekends.

> only meet them a couple of times a week

You're very, very lucky

You send them memes regularly.

Serious. I have a bunch of social circles that I keep live just by doing this from time to time.

Why you place your side projects above your friends?

i always get a kick out of how HN people talk about their "side projects" rather than their "hobbies". just let your hobby be a hobby instead of turning it into a pseudojob.

seriously

hobbies can be serious! i take all my hobbies more seriously than my career at this point.

but they're for fun.

For me it's not a pseudojob, I code tools for myself to help me in my endaevours. Perhaps I will publish some someday, maybe I won't.

Firstly - because I'm an introvert and I more often feel like doing something interesting or necessary alone or together with my spouse, secondly - this list is not really sorted by my priorities, I actually put my education (which mostly is self-education in areas mostly unrelated to my job) much higher.

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