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Oh boy. Lack of energy.

I became a dad at 41. I’m fit, been working out at least 3x per week since my teen days, eat well etc… and damn between full time work and parental duties I’m half dead by the time I go to bed (and then the little gremlin won’t sleep well!).

I suppose being 10 or 15 years younger would help a lot in this regard.

I don’t regret anything though, what I lived in my twenties and thirties wouldn’t have been possible or much more difficult with kids.

My country is always near the top in life expectancy (84 or so) so if I’m lucky I’ll still get 40 years with my daughter

Bless you for having the courage to go through with it at 40+ age. I admire you. That must've taken guts.

Kid #2 at age 37. I actually feel like it's easier at this age because I'm somewhat established in my field.

I became a Dad to a colicky kid at 28, and cannot confirm that it's easy.

Easier, maybe, as each year I feel more tired - I'm not yet 41, and my triathlon and 5k times have been slowly dropping, but there was an enormous step function when my son was born.

As someone of a similar age, about to pull the figurative trigger, I really appreciate your anecdote.

I'd welcome more if you're up for it. Especially as it relates to family/personal life balance and the compromises you've had to make.

Not OP. Tried having kids for seven years. Got one at 40.

Thank the Almighty I get to work from home. Quit my amazing job just to stay home and work 100%

Trying to foster or adopt now.

I'm up at 430. Bed at 10.

The first six months are rough. After that it's just managing food, fun, naps.

Yeah, easy answer. Not even close. Kids are already tough on your energy, and it just gets worse as you get older and add more kids.

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