I don't do automatic updates and actively prevent that from happening. Automatic updates are a plague that means you can't rely on the software anymore, if for no other reason than an update may (and likely will, eventually) remove or otherwise bork the very aspect that made it valuable to you.
But I'm a weirdo and take care to ensure that I actually own and control the software I use. I see people getting burned because they're at the mercy of a company all too often.
I've switched to FreeBSD and things mostly stay working, but I've already seen steps in the direction that Linux has gone, so I fear it's just a matter of time.
Plus, a lot of these server dependencies are added to create that dependency and the software would be better off without them anyway.
Remember when Java and MySQL weren't owned by Oracle?
I do.
2000-2005, the biggest automatic updates that consumers had to deal with were Windows (Office, OS, etc) updates and games. Valve's Steam, which had come into prevalence (notably Counterstrike:Source), World of Warcraft, etc.
By 2008 (Google Chrome), automatic updates were common. I would say the ship had sailed by 2005. Yes, this is 1 full generation ago.
On several different SaaS softwares used at my employer I have found myself asking if they have entire teams of highly compensated UX professionals and graphics designers who justify their continued employment by changing the interface every 3 months by just enough to annoy me after I finally remap my brain to the latest locations of the tools and buttons.
Not really, no. The software space was much, much richer and you could get along extremely well without using much software from the big guys.
Today we have the illusion of speaking globally but have been gatekept out by a handful of companies.