I was also very intimidated by the ORY stack. I didn't know how all the pieces fit together. And to self-host you pretty much need to run and orchestrate it on k8s. I'm not an auth expert, I just want a login thingy for my website/app.
I'm not affiliated with it in any way, but I really liked what ZITADEL[1] is doing, in case anyone else is researching their options. It has a very simple interface to get started with, but also a ton of features. It being written in Go is a huge benefit since that makes it much easier for me to throw it up on my vps and calling it a day.