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I don't know if this was considered in the film (I haven't seen it), but the difference between how men's and women's issues are treated is quite obvious to me. It's due to an imbalance in the care matrix.

If we think broadly about who cares about whom, it goes like this:

* Men care about women because they want to mate with them,

* Women care about women because it's in their own best interest to look after each other (men only care about them for selfish reasons),

* Men don't care about men because it's not in their own best interest to do so, in fact it's advantageous to defeat other men,

* Women don't care about men because it's not in their own best interest to do so.

Essentially, women support each other, men compete with each other.

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In every species female is the selector, that's how natural selection works.

Generally in a group of healthy young population with 50% sex ratio, about half of the men are selected, and they help eachother.

But in the online dating / birth control age this ratio has gone more extreme, and there's no real ,,parenting advice'' or emotional need support that can help, just accepting the new normal for everyone, and competing harder.

>In every species female is the selector, that's how natural selection works.

Maybe that is true if you are only talking about mammals. But it is certainly not true in general.

Here is an example directly from Wikipedia:

"In the size dimorphic wolf spider Tigrosa helluo, food-limited females cannibalize more frequently. Therefore, there is a high risk of low fitness for males due to pre-copulatory cannibalism, which led to male selection of larger females for two reasons: higher fecundity and lower rates of cannibalism."[0]

This means that in this species of spider is the male who applies the selective pressure.

You can look into sexual monomorphism/dimorphism to find more examples.

[0] - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_dimorphism

Yep.

Gender differences in automatic in-group bias: why do women like women more than men like men?

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/15491274/

A better title for that would have been ... why do women like more women than men like more men?

It appears you and me came to the same conclusion.

The only solution I see to this problem is bringing down the value of reproduction through technology. Think artificial wombs.

That should hopefully lessen the social pressure of men to compete.

It's not artificial wombs. But you can have children through surrogacy.

https://www.thefp.com/p/motherloading-inside-the-surrogacy

It is somewhat similar but it doesn't have big enough of an impact in this regard. Still too expensive/illegal.

Men don't really compete due to a conscious desire to reproduce, though. It simply pleases men to have more power and more access to more women. The only reason is because they are descended from men who had power and access to women.

This seems to be a common misunderstanding of how natural selection works. Giraffes don't select other giraffes consciously because of their ability to reach higher leaves. They select them unconsciously simply because they are attracted to giraffes with longer necks. And they are attracted to giraffes with longer necks because they are descended from giraffes who were attracted to giraffes with longer necks and those giraffes were able to reach higher leaves and could slightly out-compete the other giraffes.

There is an amazing movie about this, an italian horro comedy, recommended watch in many ways.

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