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Meh, I thought this in my early 20s.

But if nothing else, marriage is an agreement that you’re not just gonna nope out when there’s adversity or when something better comes along. It’s a powerful mutual gesture.

If you aren’t compelled by that idea, there’s someone out there who will. Maybe you have to dump your current 6-year-long situationship to go look for them, but hey, it’s not like you’re married. ;)

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> an agreement that you’re not just gonna nope out when there’s adversity or when something better comes along.

This has zero legal binding whatsoever while having exit clauses that statistically heavily favor women even in cases where they are the ones initiating. While it may make sense on a case by case basis, its a statistically terrible decision to bet on

You nailed it: there is power in that mutual gesture - it creates a bond that pushes both parties to work through challenges instead of just noping out with a break up. There's a reason they call it "tying the knot".

Source: A 40-year old who has no interest in marriage and only saw it as an "antiquated social construct" when I was younger. I learned there's more to it.

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