This is a common misconception. US homes are not two phase, they are single phase 240 volts, called split phase because the single transformer leg is tapped in the middle to form two 120 volt lines, each 180 degrees out of phase with the other.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Split-phase_electric_power
Three phase circuits are 120 degrees out of phase.
But completely agreed that three phase 400V seems crazy!