Still trying to figure out _something_ that works, but every failed attempt is both taxing and disheartening. I wish there was more awareness regarding ODD.
It's been helpful and was initially counterintuitive. I think the author has one for teens as well.
This may not apply to your situation but the parents have to be on the same page as each other and have a mutually respectful parenting style otherwise things will appear unstable and the kid will exploit that loophole.
Also for all behavioral problems, the only person you can change or control is yourself.
And remember that every behavior is a form of communication of some underlying need.
They absolutely love it, and it’s been a big positive in many ways for them. Our lazy unmotivated child works hard now and talks constantly about college, getting good grades etc. basically, she’s doesn’t want to disappoint the team or her friends, so she’s learned to push herself hard. Plus they are so busy they don’t have time to get into trouble.
We had them in horses at one point. Person selling us on it had a good point that keeping them busy and active was cheaper than teen pregnancy or years of therapy.