If you fall asleep drunk with flammable objects, you deserve everything coming to you. This isn't discaution, it's up there with drunk driving.
In truth, they were both. I've known people who drove drunk and hurt others and I've known people who drove drunk and have been hurt and I know people who didn't drive drunk and were hurt by a drunk driver.
It's a systemic problem and requires a systemic solution. Personal responsibility is the can we kick when we're unwilling to face the need to change incentives and structures.
If I found out a friend drove drunk, I'd berate the hell out of them and shame them. What a dangerous, selfish thing to do.