I am secure: that's obvious to other people. I was trying to be kind to you, but I have my limits.

To put it in psychopath terms: I've retired early but you're still working, so I have higher status than you. I'm dressing you down in public, so you have lost face.

If you fail to develop empathy, you're always going to have conversations like this, and sometimes you're going to be the one who is bullied. Tiny violin.