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> I know this is a judgemental view

It’s not. Life is not rose colored. Some people get lucky and find their life partners, while others die alone.

Dying alone after a happy life is one thing, dying after decades of hell with a bad partner is another, and yet another to pay someone you hate until you die, like many men in California do.

Wondering why you single out California specifically for this?

I think he meant a large number of divorced males in California although relatively speaking, California has one of the lower rates of divorce among all states, with the highest in the South.

https://www.bgsu.edu/ncfmr/resources/data/family-profiles/al...

Percentages and absolute numbers are difficult conepts to grasp for some.

Presumably it's a reference to California not having a statutory limitation on the time horizon for alimony payments (and also allowing for courts to reopen alimony decisions years later) after a marriage of more than 10 years is dissolved.

It's a choice in the end, hence, divorces. But many men - and based on your comments, yourself included - seem to not want to actually be alone.

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