you now have a child. you may want to see how little you can prepare for your next work role and still be successful. the less you put towards the job, the more you have to put towards the responsibility.
work to live, or live to work?
I found myself in the same end state over and over (in this case, burn out). The two shared aspects between various situations were: me and the end result.
If different situations lead to the same end state and I'm the only common element then that implies that my own actions lead to that end state.
Specifically:
- inability to set boundaries and people pleasing ("yes I will commit to this even though I've committed to other things").
- perfectionism ("I need to spend a week on this even though it was good enough after day 2").
When I interview someone now if the candidate mentions their perfectionism, I immediately say, "Tell me about the last thing you've done perfectly." Very few people have a satisfying story to tell. It usually turns out that perfectionists rarely achieve perfection!
From there I talk about how we're not looking for candidates to do anything perfectly. We want candidates who can get things done to the reasonable standards we have. You can still be engaged in your work and do a great job, but if you're not getting work done because you're trying to make everything perfect, you're not going to be a good fit.
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Nothing was technically hard, but just an onslaught of more work, all the time. Contracts kept being signed with customers that couldn't be delivered because of lack of resource, etc. etc.
> picking up lots of additional things because nobody owned them and it held back progress (CI/CD infra, coding standards across teams, etc.)
If nobody owned them, why’d you own them?
> tech lead/management/lead developer all at once
Did someone say, “You are now tech lead/management/developer all at once” or did you think you “needed” to do these things?
> Contracts kept being signed with customers that couldn't be delivered because of lack of resource
OK then your choices seem like either not delivering on contracts or getting burned out. Which is the better option in your opinion?
External: hard deadlines signed by commercial side of the business, lots of pressure to meet them regardless of the how, not just from my boss but from the business stakeholders who often went against my boss as well.