> >You have given nothing to support the argument that treating someone as subservient based on gender 'ultimately does us good.'
> I never said this. Quote me where I said this, or I will be forced to regard you as a liar.
You said, in the context of the OP's complaint about "'subtle' sexism":
> We need to distinguish between small harms that ultimately do us good and large harms that are sending society on a destructive course.
If you weren't arguing the poster's issue with subtle sexism as was one of those small harms then you've just been going on a random tangent.
If someone accuses you of saying something you didn't mean, it's not necessarily because they are lying or making things up. It could be a misunderstanding, a misinterpretation or a lack of clarification on either side. Further, if someone summarizes or distills your argument and cannot source that summary verbatim, that also doesn't mean it's a lie or inaccurate.
> And I never said "small issues don't matter". Why make things up?
You said this:
> There are much bigger, structural problems to worry about right now. It's like we're on a boat with a hole in the bottom and every interest group is complaining that their feet are getting wetter than all the others.
which implies that people shouldn't be complaining about their feet getting wet because there's a bigger issue. It very much implies that you think small issues should be ignored in favor of the large issues.
Why is it wrong to ask for people to attempt to refrain from being subtly sexist? Is it really that difficult of a thing to do?