That is all relevant. The immense gravity of her decision to become openly, publicly intersex, and the hours of apprehension and coaching required to go through with it, is a significant aspect.
If the dress was pink, would the situation be different? If the flowers were green, would that matter?
It's all irrelevant details, like 95% of the article probably is, from what I've skimmed. I'm willing to bet her argument could be summarized in less than 5% of the length of this article.
And I'm sorry, but I'm not willing to waste my time reading these sorts of articles, as I have many, many other things which are more important to me.
Which is a shame, because again, I'd be willing to read and learn about her issues if it was written in a more succinct, straight-to-the point style (which can still be long, but not filled with irrelevant details).
I can understand that there are people who like to read these articles, but I'm not one of them. I'm here in Hacker News to read articles to learn about interesting issues and discuss them with interesting people, as efficiently as possible. I'm not here to spend hours reading novels about random people...
The details are called human interest, and there were some interesting unstaged coincidences in there.
Not much was more important to her.
If you had written it, I'd probably be a lot more willing to read it, as you seem to write in the more direct style I was mentioning, unlike in these articles that are written in a style that reads more like a novel.
Now all that's left is for someone to summarize the rest of the article.
Chatgpt - or just read it yourself