Many EDB & 2nd Quadrant have 10+ years experience as core Postgres commiters. I had the pleasure meeting some at Kubecon EU in Amsterdam, friendly Italian & UK Engineers I felt I can trust to make good software. They saw the issues you describe and took a step forward by engineering a proper Kubernetes Operator, introducing it at Kubecon EU 2022 to the public when it reached version 1.5, after they had been running it on their DBaaS production clusters for some time.
Highly recommended. IMHO running Postgres on-prem in most use cases is cheaper than a hosted version. Especially taking into account Schrem 1, 2 & (upcoming) 3 [1].
[0] https://www.packtpub.com/product/postgresql-14-administratio...
[1] https://noyb.eu/en/european-commission-gives-eu-us-data-tran...