I really don't know where to start but the answer is most likely: No, you can't.
So, you seem to have made up your mind. Then why do you ask the question here on HN? What do you hope to gain from that? Are you looking for comments to tell you how awesome you are? Must be quite the bummer not to get them.
So everyone using any kind of framework is a moron or simply doesn't know what he is doing? Really?!
There are tradeoffs for sure but you can't have everything all at once.