sounds to me like you value FIRE more than a family?
In almost all the families I know the spouses are home with the kids and either stopped working, don't plan to go back to work, or only plan to go back to work once all kids are older.
In almost all the families I know the spouses are home with the kids and either stopped working, don't plan to go back to work, or only plan to go back to work once all kids are older.