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Dude here. If you talk to women about their experiences with doctors and -- and this is important! -- actually listen you'll find that they're very different than ours.

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I've gone to appointments with my wife and have had to repeat what she's told the doctor to have them even pay attention. Then ask, what's the protocol to handle this? because while they listened, they weren't reacting.

She had to ask me to go with her because they weren't helping. And finding another doctor to go to would have taken weeks/months.

I have a hard time taking self reports seriously particularly because identity politics are in vogue and that means a lot of people are eager to portray themselves as oppressed characters. I've spent time in clinics, hospitals, and ICUs, and have experienced condescension, not being taken seriously, being kept in the dark about my own health, etc., likely because I'm not very assertive by nature (as a male of course). "Just believe women!" is another example of bullshit identity politics and I don't think it's proven to be a good attitude since it became a catchphrase with #MeToo. Sorry if this comes off as blunt/rude and of course I sympathize with anyone getting mistreated by physicians but I really don't believe that women are disadvantaged in health care today, however if you have evidence that women have worse health outcomes due to mistreatment then I'd like to see it. Otherwise I'd rather trust my own experience and the data that I'm familiar with (e.g. life expectancy).

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