> I'd say it's almost like writing in assembly. You have to write your code in some pseudo code first, synchronously, then translate that into the asynchronous callback spaghetti than node requires.

This is a sign of a not-fully-adopted paradigm shift. Like, when someone first learns a new (spoken) language, they translate it to their native language in their head.

Fluent speakers don't translate, they simply understand. Similarly, when you fully grok functional programming, coding with callbacks will cease to feel unnatural.

That said, it does take some getting used to, which is a real cost that needs to be considered when choosing Node.