>I wouldn't marry anyone...
yeah but I wouldn't tell someone that seems reasonably happy with the person they married that I wouldn't marry them.
As long as we're listing the things we wouldn't do.
yeah but I wouldn't tell someone that seems reasonably happy with the person they married that I wouldn't marry them.
As long as we're listing the things we wouldn't do.
If I disagree with it, I'd think "their loss, sucks to have weird arbitrary standards"
If I agreed then I'd have been lying about my happiness with the relationship.
Either way some things need to be said. I haven't seen any good arguments in favor of purchasing a diamond ring which don't seem to dismiss and devalue the agency and right to an opinion of the purchaser.
Even uncut diamond crystals have a very particular "fatty" shine to it that some people might like and enjoy.
However I've seen demands that a fiancé purchase a real diamond, not a much cheaper "synthetic" one, even though it's structurally identical. That this was even a notion affirmed my assumption that the psychological importance of purchasing a diamond is tied to the price itself.
Luckily we dodged that bullet.
Whenever my wife gets comments about her moissanite, people notice it's different. Due to it's refractive index, it breaks light more and leads to a lot more colors seen when reflected back out of the stone. Loads of people just think it's a fancy diamond though since they don't know anything else and it otherwise looks very diamond like.
CZ will look about the same as diamond just not as sparkly on day one. But it's way softer, so if it's a daily wear it'll get all scratched up within several years. After 10 years of wear the difference between CZ and diamond is pretty clear.
- I love my wife!
- Well, I wouldn't marry her.
Might be the kind of communication (obviously, broken down here to its base level here) that would be considered out of line by a significant portion of the world population.
>I haven't seen any good arguments in favor of purchasing a diamond ring
As a gift
>which don't seem to dismiss and devalue the agency and right to an opinion of the purchaser.
when buying a gift for someone it is probably good to consider and value the agency and right to an opinion of the receiver.
Not saying you are forced to buy a diamond, I don't have, but that is partially because my wife does not have strong opinions on that subject either way.
> when buying a gift for someone it is probably good to consider and value the agency and right to an opinion of the receiver.
Which was obviously considered in the situation. But buying any gift of course is not a 50:50 affair. One person is spending all the money. By principle I think that person should have more finality in the decision than the person only receiving the gift.
Even then, I'd be very careful to deliver the message in the most amenable way possible.