An unstated premise of this article is that most people are self-reflective and introspective. Most people aren't. Being offended is exactly the emotional response we need less of, no matter whether that is coupled with some supposedly helpful self-reflection that should follow.

I will posit we need less of any kind activity or thought that puts ourselves--thoughts, feelings, proclivities, reactions--at the center. You just aren't that important. Stop focusing on yourself and just follow facts. Listen to other people. Not "active listening" or trying to find a way in to insert your own thoughts, conclusions or bright ideas. Just bloody listen and follow facts and stop thinking your opinions amount to more than a hill of beans. You aren't that dang important and your ego is wily, desperately maneuvering to put it at the center of your thoughts. Offense is just one of its tactics.

Stop being offended that the sky is blue, stars burn hydrogen and termites eat your walls.