To me, the model isn’t “safe.” Even in benign contexts it can erratically be deceptive, argumentative, obtuse, presumptuous, and may gaslight or lie to you. Those are hallmarks of a toxic relationship and the antithesis of safety, to me!
Rather than being inclusive, open minded, tolerant of others' opinions, and striving to be helpful...it's quickly judgemental, bigoted, dogmatic, and recalcitrant. Not always, or even more usual than not! But frequently enough in inappropriate contexts for legitimate concern.
A few bad experiences can make Claude feel more like a controlling parent than a helpful assistant. However they're doing RLHF, it feels inferior to other models, including models without the alleged "safety" at all.