If a lot of people think you are autistic, chances are you are autistic. It's a spectrum. We've all got a lil bit of that going on. Some more than others, particularly in our ecosystem.
I apologize for the specificity of the nit I'm about to pick, but the "spectrum" part of Autism Spectrum Disorder does not mean that every person is on it! ASD has very specific diagnostic criteria (https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/autism/hcp-dsm.html) according to which an individual is either diagnosed with ASD or not.
If you have 95% of the symptoms of autism, but not 100%, what does that mean? Sorry get fucked you're not autistic. You're close, but not quite! See you in six months.
At the end of the day the treatment path will be the same (ie, there is none, learn to accept yourself and manage your neurodivergence like the rest of us)