"Too big to fail" is just a euphemism for "privatized gains, socialized losses".
This is mainly because by law the local grid operator and actual electricity providers have to be different companies. The grid operators must/should not go bankrupt but electricity providers can and do.
There is a whole process about what happens if the company your are buying your electricity from goes bankrupt. Basically you automatically get a new spot price contract with some designated local "default company" and obviously you are free to make new contract with anyone you want at that moment if you don't like that option.
The local grid operators are highly regulated (as they should be as natural monopolies) and basically make their customers pay costs + a small margin and thus can't really go bankrupt.