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When we 1st separated in 2011 my ex-wife and I along with our young daughter stayed in the same house for about a year. It was definitely not the most comfortable of situations but I've had worse living arrangements in my life.

After selling the house we both rented town houses. We should have done more communicating about that because we unknowingly ended up renting 2 doors down from each other. That was the living situation which couldn't end soon enough.

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My sister lives 4 houses down from our parents and did it on purpose but refuses to speak to them or let them see their granddaughter. Some people do weird shit.

Some of this has to do with balancing closeness and distance. One reason why it can get weird is that one motive can be conscious while the opposite motive is unconscious. So for example I might be consciously distant by refusing to speak to them or let them see the granddaughter, while at the same time I show my need for closeness unconsciously, by living 4 houses down.

It's tough stuff and I don't mean to comment rudely on your family situation.

What gets me is that this wasn't even your worst living arrangement. I hope things have been moving up for you since.

It could work well for some people.

One of my father's cousins swapped wives with his best friend. They were quite amicable about it and continued to be friends including going on holiday together.

Variable > enum ;)

Just write the sitcom already ;)

I find the situation to be in equal parts discombobulating and fascinating

My worse living arrangements were before this happened. The severely bi-polar girlfriend who stopped taking her meds and the alcoholic roommate who would become violent come to mind.

I currently live in a refurbished and expanded 19th century farm house on a 209 acre property with a horse farm which my fiancee owns. I retired in August at 54. I spend my days taking care of the property, horses and our daughters while my fiancee is off to the city during the week for work.

I am genuinely relieved at this outcome. Congratulations, it sounds like a lovely life!

That’s hilarious!

It was obviously not hilarious, but I am trying desperately to respond in a way that seems positive, yet that reflects the humor of the situation without being insensitive. I am failing miserably.

It’s darkly hilarious in all the ways people use the word ironic incorrectly for.

If you've previously survived for one year in the same house I think it'd be possible to see the humor in the situation and just move again one year after.

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