> It's true that infalling observers will experience outside time speeding up, and conversely outside observers will see infalling objects slow down.

And the infinite passage of all external time is observed in a finite time by the infalling observer. All of the communication from the external observer is going to become a high frequency chirp at the event horizon, and the last message the infalling observer could send will take nearly an infinite amount of time to reach the external observer. And in the next instant of subjective time by the infalling observer they will be past the event horizon and unable to communicate any more.