Tesla gets away with it because almost everyone esle followed them to save costs. And because they managed to convince people to cope with that shit in first place (cars are now software because of EV and reasons and all that crap).
Ye EVs could potentially have less software than ICEs. Simpler motor ECU and often no gearbox or clutch.
Instead the manufacturers take the opportunity to push more stuff on us.
That being said, I like the UX of our cars. But the newest ine is from 2020, the oldest one from 1982...