Anyway, that was my mindset a decade ago and since then didn't have had any issues. Recently was on the dating market again and the first month I spent 80 hours into going up and talking to women and only got one date. ONE DATE! :')
I was rusty for sure.
Fast forward 2 months and I'm on Tinder, 5 matches per month.
Fast forward another 3 months, and now I'm having 150 matches per month (by thinking like a hacker, ever reverse engineered a binary or played hackthebox? Good! Use that mindset, reverse anything you can get your hands on, make Tinder a white box app - also, stay legal).
Fast forward another 2 months and I was having sex with a different woman once per week. I realized I didn't like it, I'm too much of a romantic. At one date, I met an amazingly cool and beautiful person and we really liked each other and we've been together for about a year now.
It's all skill training. And this was my second skill training loop (first time between 16 and 20). It still took 8 months and in the first months I was still laughably bad again (80 hours just to get one date, omg :') It cracked me up then and it cracks me up now).
It's funny how people think this is attached to your personality and stuff, it really isn't. The skill in dating is going up to people and being able to present yourself well. I was horrible at both. It takes a while to fix (and to refix after 5 years of a long-term relationship) when you're like me.