Apparently, millions of young men have simply checked out. They're not in school and missing from the work force. Another statistic I came across: 45% of young men (18-24) have never approached a girl in their life.
They're isolating themselves. They're not bettering themselves, or competing. They're out.
Do we draw straws?
Everyone makes their choices. If 45% of men are choosing to drop out of ever having a relationship without even trying, maybe that’s on them.
For sure they should become more active, but there may be societal trends contributing to the statistic: increased isolation, limited shared spaces, dating largely moving to apps, poor or no role models, fear of rejection, etc.
A growing amount of men go for the "or else" part. So it doesn't look like a powerful motivator for change.