You tell the person "I was told I had to pay this <X fee> to release my package but I don't know who or where I pay" while waving the cash around cluelessly. The person will 100% then offer to take it and "handle it from there" under the stupid guise of plausibility.
I tried giving a gift to some, as thanks for letting me sleep on their couch. They told me no no no. I asked my friends about it, they told me it's about face.
Omg, I get that honor is a big thing, but it makes normal interactions way more complicated.
"You'll have to pop in next time you're in the area!" does NOT mean "turn up at my house unannounced". Even if it sounds like it.
Or "How are you going?" is not a prompt to actually tell them how you're going.
I'm told that, in China, a way to greet someone is to say: "Have you eaten yet?" 你吃了吗
You are not supposed to provide a detailed answer such as: "Yes I ate a breakfast sandwich this morning at 8 am".
Instead you simply say "I ate" (吃了) or "Nope" (没呢)
Some areas may have it to a lesser extent (China were the cultural revolution steam rolled everything and only left superstition) but the concepts shared remain the same,the expression of the pattern varies widely.