I'm getting at the fact that you pay more for an at-home nanny than many families- who also have kids, make in a year.

You are in a ridiculously privileged state to be able to simply afford that and you act as though it's impossible to get by without it.

Regular daycare costs multiples less than an at-home nanny, just as public school is far cheaper than private+tutors.

So again my point is that these are not necessary expenses but chosen.

And that I know right now people doing skilled and licensed labor-intensive jobs for less than 30/hr.