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"How to win friends and influence people" is the longer form book version of this article that's been around a long time.

Despite the somewhat creepy title, I found it to be a very sincere look at personal communications.

- It's very hard to know what other people are going through so don't assume

- Be genuinely interested in other people, don't just wait for your turn to talk

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I loved this book, because I found the overarching themes were "be nice to people and they'll like you and want to work with you" and "here's some genuine ways you can engage with and be nice to people".

It helped me realize how selfish I was in some ways when interacting with others and how little changes (that aren't slimy/creepy) can make me get along better with others.

One of the best for me was finding something, anything, that you can truly complement a person on. Anything from what they are eating for lunch looks great, you like the color of their bicycle, the headphones they are wearing look like the work really well, etc.

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