Lighthouse is sophisticated and productive. I only use it in fully-authenticated contexts but because it is schema-first with good ORM bindings and excellent annotation support, I barely write any logic that isn't a mutation, an accessor or a permissions gate. The occasional top-level query resolver. Beyond that it is the graphql schema and the models.
And it gives me the opportunity to separate out the front end concerns in a way I could explain to someone else.
Apollo has been a bit of a pickle on the front-end, mind you. That's a decision I'd revisit.
But generally it has meant a flexible API interface and leads to nice low latency UIs.
Check it out:
And these really good third-party auth mutations for Passport: