> If I left a million dollars out on my front porch, and someone stole it, that would not be my fault in any sort of way

It's possible for multiple people to share the blame for something. You _are_ the victim. The person who stole it _is_ the bad guy / criminal. But you _both_ share the blame, because you did something to put yourself at risk when you had better options.

If I'm out late at night, wearing expensive jewelry and have 2 ways home; one longer but down a well lit road, the other shorter but through a dark alley in a crime ridden neighborhood; and I chose the dark alley and got mugged... I would be the victim AND be partially to blame for making a stupid choice.

Making choices that put yourself at risk by ignoring the realities of the world, when you don't need to, mean you share the blame.